Reflections on Mentoring

On August 14, 2015, in Christian Living, Insights, Leadership, by july

One of the worst things a leader can do to himself is to think that he’s made it to the top. This cannot be further from the truth. No one can touch the pinnacle of leadership in this world. There are always more things to learn. In fact, the more I know, the more I know that I do not know. The more I grow, the more I realize how small I am. Life does not revolve around pride. It is a stumbling block, a hurdle, even a wall we all have to run past. There is no glory in feeding pride. The more one hands nourishment to it, the bigger the hole one digs for himself.

I sincerely believe that every Christian in the ministry needs a mentor. Edmund Chan was right. The problem with the church’s warcry is not “are you ready” (to evangelize). It is “are you rooted” (in God). Most Christians are not rooted, forget about being ready. If Christians are not properly mentored, they will cruise through life growing slowly or worse, slipping down with the current. I have been with some who refuses all forms of rebuke and found themselves falling into their self-made pits. How sad. To be properly mentored is to allow people to correct you, to teach you, and to support you. Many times, people are resistant. Resistant for emotional reasons, not intellectual.

I see mentoring as shortcuts to efficacy, in a similar way that books are shortcuts to knowledge. In a little while I will be teaching about the Ontological Argument and the Trinity. What I will be teaching a group of men later is the result of YEARS of personal reflections on God and the Trinity. What I will say to them later is one which most will never encounter in their lifetime. Without mentoring, these nuggets may end up too obscure to notice.

If we want to be an effective minister for God, the only solution is to be properly mentored.

I am extremely glad. I am extremely glad because I found myself helping those who help themselves. It is very encouraging to help A players excel. The Pareto Principle is a leadership strategy that says one has to focus 80% of his time to the top 20% of his people. In other words, focus on building your best people. Why do this? Because many of those below them won’t move no matter how much you try. It is easier to make a boat cruise downstream than upstream. With the same amount of effort, I get more results in helping the best than the rest.

Does this mean abandonment? Well, in part yes. We human beings have been given only 24 hours a day. No more, no less. I always tell one of those I mentor that “There’s no need to ask if your seniors are busy. Your seniors are always busy. Do not hesitate to ask for a mentoring relationship because they’re busy. If you are worth their time, they will make time.”

People do not begin to mature because others help them mature. People begin to mature because they CHOOSE to mature. Maturity is a choice, not an accident. It is intentional, not reactionary. Therefore, to be properly mentored is a decision, not an aberration.

I am thankful of my mentors. I have learned so many things I wouldn’t have learned otherwise. The reason why I strongly push leaders to find mentors is because the benefits of engaging in a mentoring relationship is extraordinary. Someday, if God wills, I will drop their names in public. Someday, if God wills, they will remember the impact they have done in this little insignificant life. I am me, in part, because some of those who have journeyed the cross before me are willing to take me under their wing and teach me things that I would not learn that easily.

One day. Someday.

 

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